Thursday, 27 June 2013

Abbijo: Shhh it's a secret

Last night I was playing poker with friends of mine and I was really happy, mainly because I was winning by a mile, until at the end of the night I found something private about myself being told to one of my friends. The person who told, lets call him C, immediately apologised when he realised what he said was personal and should most definitely not have ever been discussed.

The situation with C ended in us spending most of the night talking about what he said, how bad it was, how bad he felt, how he would do anything to make it up to me etc... and then by the time I was too tired to talk any more it was really late (well very early in the morning) so I said I was going to bed and he should just leave. At this he refused and insisted on staying with me saying that he still felt really bad and didn't want me to alone when I was so upset. He looked so honest and sad that eventually I permitted him to stay in my room and turned my back on him.

When I woke up this morning I found myself wondering, are guys truly as ignorant as they seem or are they secretly all extremely good at manipulation?

So did C manage to manipulate me into talking with him and letting him stay over last night or was it a sheer coincidence, I'd love to believe that no body could possibly manipulate me into doing anything I don't want to, but the truth is after last night I am no longer sure about that. I was so angry at him, how could I go from that to letting him stay in my room the night? It just baffled me when I found myself giving him a hug and saying goodbye earlier. And now that I think about it I think it possibly make me more angry at him that the second situation arose.

I think this also probably addresses another common misconception that we have in our society today, women gossip. At this point I am not going to lie and say I have never gossiped however it is my view that guys are just as bad for gossiping as girls are. In fact I would even go further and say that they can be worse. When a woman gossips it is generally light hearted and wouldn't tend to hurt someone, however in my experience when men gossip it is about something that can hurt somebody, often intimate details are released and then told to other guys. I think women in general are much more refined gossipers.

Au revoir, happy musings

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